S3 EP 117: Kezia Kos, Author of Kintsugi

*Trigger warnings*   
Today's episode contains an open discussion of mental illness and emotional abuse. You will hear a word bleeped at least twice in this episode. That word is sui©ide. We did this to ensure this episode does not get removed by censors. 


Today Dianne is joined by another expat author, Kezia Kos, a Brazilian expat living in Germany. She has an impressive educational background, with a degree in translation for French and English and a specialization course in psychoanalysis.

After moving to the other side of the planet from her family, Kezia began to get a new perspective on her own family relationships. While researching family characteristics, Kezia found very few stories about the “golden child,” one of the many possible roles within family dynamics depending on an individual’s personality traits. 

When a family is headed by a narcissistic parent , there is a specific constellation of roles that other family members tend to take on around them: the flying monkey, the black sheep, the golden child, and others.

To better understand her own role in her family, Kezia turned to therapy which became a big part of her journey of self discovery. As she began watching videos online about narcissistic family systems, she began to recognize her own family in the descriptions. Kezia noticed there were very few stories that focused on "The GoldenChild," the one who stays and lives under the thumb of the narcissistic parent. This is the story Kezia wanted to tell.

Taking heavily from her own life, Kezia decided to write a series of books using the information she had learned in her studies and therapy to bring to light some of these seldom discussed family dynamics. Don't wait, go listen now to hear this story in Kezia's own words.

Kezia's Website
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Kezia on Amazon
Kezia on TikTok